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So Long 2013

It goes without saying that this year has been the most fruitful! I have been blessed beyond words and have had opportunities unlike any other. Let’s take a look at how 2013 went…

My life changed the first week of June when I won the title of Miss Kansas. I still am in disbelief at how the months have gone by so quickly!

Three short months later I competed for the title of Miss America. I made international headlines MA13everywhere by daring to be different; showing my tattoos, promoting the military and the outdoors, and standing up for my beliefs. Almost 500,000 people watched my YouTube video on why I should be Miss America, winning me the “America’s Choice” award. I placed in the top 10. The experience of those 2 weeks I spent competing for the title will never be forgotten. I made a Dianagreat friend in Miss Nevada, I challenged the norm, and America was so receptive and willing to listen to my message. Thank you, America!!!

The months after Miss America have been incredibly busy. I speak to schools about bullying on a weekly basis, and I speak to other organizations about my personal platform; empowering women to overcome stereotypes and break barriers. Women face so many stereotypes that we may not even be aware of, which only aids in perpetuating them. My goal is to inform, educate and empower.

Since my love and passion for the outdoors became well known at Miss America, the months following have also been busy with “unusual” bookings for a Miss Kansas. I have attended the Governor’s Pheasant Hunt, I have taught girl scout troops how to shoot a bow, I have been a part of the Kansas BOW (Becoming an Outdoor Woman) event, I have traveled to Georgia to speak for the Concerned Veterans of America group, and so much more!

The last event of 2013 had to have been the greatest moment of my year. Given my very busy Huntingschedule, I had not been able to go hunting all season. The incredible staff at Kansas Department of Wildlife, Parks and Tourism understood what a passion it is for me, so they lined up a hunt with JB Outfitters in Pratt, Kansas. The outfitters asked that David Blanton, a hunting TV show personality for Realtree Outdoors, come film my hunt.

The three long, cold days of being in a tree stand with Mr. Blanton exceeded all expectations. He is the type of person that makes you want to be closer to God. He makes you want to be a better Christian. When I was around him, I could literally feel the Holy Spirit. I am so blessed to have gotten to know him, and honored to call him a friend. Thank you, David for sharing with me your testimony.

In the last hour of the last day, I harvested a warrior; an old, mature, rough-looking buck. God Hunting1tested my patience waiting for this guy! It was 20 degrees all three days, it snowed on the second day, and on the third day the wind just wasn’t cooperating with us. But, good things come to those who wait, right?

The hunt would not have been the same without the help of Bear Archery and Realtree. A week before the hunt, Bear sent me a brand new bow—the Venue. It shoots like a dream (and has no pink on it…you guys know I hate pink camo)! Realtree ensured that I was outfitted properly for a cold-weather hunt. Thank you, both!

So what does 2014 have in store? I have 6 months left of my Miss Kansas reign before I’m forced to decide my path. I have been blessed with so many opportunities that I could go many different ways; having a TV show, working for Realtree, being a professional spokesperson, etc. I pray that I make the right decision in due time.

Whatever I decide to do, I know that I will not lose sight of my cause. I will continue to speak to women, empowering and challenging them to step outside of their comfort zones. I pray that God continues to use me as His servant, working through me to reach others. I am here to serve.

On a final, lighter note, I am on day 11 of a successful new year’s resolution! This year I needed more of a physical challenge. I wanted to take my body and its level of health and fitness to a new level. I decided to try the paleo diet. The paleo diet asks people to follow a diet similar to those who lived 10,000 years ago, essentially eating like hunters and gatherers. This diet is high in protein and produce. Now, make no mistake, I am NOT doing this to lose weight—I am doing this as a lifestyle change. I want my body to be in peak condition, physically and physiologically. How can I truly know the capabilities of my body if I’ve been polluting it with processed foods for 23 years?
The paleo diet was recently ranked last on the U.S. News and World report for being the worst diet. Why? Not because it is unhealthy…but because it was too restrictive for most people to actually follow. In other words…it’s a challenge! Right up my alley.
In the 11 days that I have gone paleo, I have never been so full of energy. I have never slept better (I’ve suffered from insomnia for many years), and I have never been so focused. Countless studies show how certain additives in processed foods yield ADD/ADHD behavioral effects. Well, problem solved; eat only natural foods!
I will continue to update you all on my journey through this challenge, through pictures and posts. I have a feeling it’s going to get difficult!

For those of you who have supported me through 2013, I thank you and I pray you’ll continue to support me through the events of 2014. What I have accomplished would not have been possible without my sponsors, my supporters and my fans. God bless you all!

-Theresa

To Judge a Book by Its Cover…

Circulating every news outlet is the leaked email from Colonel Lynette Arnhart, suggesting that the Army use “average-looking” women in its marketing efforts. Colonel Arnhart was in charge of gender-integration studies and how best to integrate women into combat roles. From her email she is quoted as saying, “In general, ugly women are perceived as competent while pretty women are perceived as having used their looks to get ahead.” She goes on to say, “It might behoove us to select more average looking women for our comms strategy.”

 In the days following this leaked email, Col. Arnhart received severe backlash for her words. My question is, why? What her critics fail to see is that she was only speaking the truth; the truth about our society as a whole. Does it make it right that the Army actually curtails its marketing to this? Of course not, and I’m as disappointed as anybody. BUT, the truth is, she’s right. Our society sees “pretty” women in high positions and assumes she’s slept her way to the top or used her looks in some facet. When are “attractive” women ever known for their brain?

 Why do these stereotypes still exist? Because our society allows it! They have been ingrained in our armyyouth, our media and, as is the case now, our advertising. Instead of bashing Col. Arnhart, what we need to be doing is changing HOW women are perceived and eradicating the stereotypes we’re held under.

 Now, onto the problem at hand; why does it even matter what a woman looks like?! I am not here to stand up for “pretty” women or “average-looking” women. I am here to stand up for ALL women. We are talking about combat here. War does not care what you look like. The Army wants to say we’re all green but that email seriously undermines any effort to provide equal treatment to women. What it’s doing is driving that wedge between men and women further and further. Not only that, but it’s also separating us as women. It’s causing us to think that there actually is a hierarchy within our own gender. “Pretty vs. Ugly?” Come on! Give us more credit. We are intellects, we are creative, we are strong.

 All we want is to be recognized for our qualifications and skill set. We want a fair shot of proving what we can bring to the table. Give us that.

Miss America

19 September, 2013

It was only 3 weeks ago that we celebrated the 50th anniversary of Dr. Martin Luther King’s acclaimed “I Have a Dream” speech. Dr. King spoke out against racism and inequality. He fought for freedom and justice. One of the most famous quotes of his, “I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.”

Have we really progressed as a nation? Have we overcome the obstacles of injustice and racism? Have we lived up to what Dr. King envisioned? Evidently not, because it is 2013 and Nina Davuluri, Miss America 2014, is receiving racist backlash for her heritage.

This outstanding woman has broken so many barriers. She is the first AMERICAN of Indian descent to win the prestigious title of Miss America. She is the first contestant to bring bollywood (a form of dance) to national television. She embodies her platform to the fullest; embracing cultural diversity.

Most of you are familiar with my own platform; Empowering women to overcome stereotypes and break barriers. Well, Nina is doing just that. As her friend, as a titleholder, and as a leader, I give her my support. Nina, if you’re reading this, I leave you with a fitting verse; “Do not rebuke mockers or they will hate you; rebuke the wise and they will love you.”

To my own fans; you supported me for breaking so many barriers and I ask that you now do the same for the reigning Miss America.

“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter,”

-Miss Kansas

God, Grant Me the Courage to Change the Things I Can

The title of this post is a line from the sacred Serenity Prayer. It is my personal mission statement for life, a constant reminder of how to choose to live. “God, Grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, and Wisdom to know the difference.” It is also tattooed on my side…

I am writing this post just weeks away from competing for Miss America because I do not want to shock the nation when I’m seen in a swimsuit, bearing my marks. I want to explain the meanings and reasons behind them, and why I am opting to show them proudly.

I mentioned the first of two, the serenity prayer. As I was growing up amidst the bullying and neglect, I found myself asking God on a daily basis to give me peace in knowing I cannot change certain things about myself, but also asking Him to give me the strength to change things that I had the power to. Praying to Him for these characteristics got me through my adolescent years, high school and boot camp. When I was 20 years old, I knew I wanted to always be reminded of my past and its connection to this prayer. Thus, I chose to have it tattooed onto my body. I have no regrets.

The second is the military medical insignia. Though much smaller than the prayer, the significance is just as great. Since I was a child, God placed a strong passion for service into my heart. Service to my Country, and service to people through medicine. In the middle of this symbol is the letter “D” to represent my dad, whose influence was paramount in choosing this career path.

As you might have noticed, I did not mention dragons, flowers, hearts or other frivolous items as one of my tattoos. I am a firm believer that lengthy and conscious thought should be given before getting “inked.” I am also firmly against (personally) getting a tattoo for the sake of getting a tattoo. All too often I run into individuals that have no rhyme or reason for the choice they made, other than “I just wanted one.” Most likely they will regret their decision after a few years.

So, down to the reason for this blog. Why am I choosing to bear my tattoos? Reference A; my platform! Empowering women to OVERCOME stereotypes and break barriers. What a hypocrite I would be if I covered the ink. With my platform, how could I tell other women to be fearless and be true to themselves if I can’t do the same? Now, had my platform been something entirely different, maybe the tables would be turned. Maybe. But I am who I am, tattoos and all.

Now, many still believe that Miss America is apple pie and pearls. However, in the job description of Miss America it clearly states that “she must represent contemporary women between the ages of 17-24.” The operative word here is “contemporary,” synonymous with modern! 1 in 5 Americans have at least 1 tattoo. If I were crowned Miss America, bearing my tattoos, do you realize the stereotypes and stigmas it would break? Do you realize it would pave a path for a whole new audience to compete in the Miss America Organization? As of right now, the stigma is girls with visible tattoos do not compete in pageants, and certainly do not win. I want to break that. I am a traditionalist, I am conservative and I am a God-fearing woman. Having tattoos does not negate any of those. Think about it.

Two more phrases catch my attention in the job description of Miss America. “She must be comfortable in her own skin” and “She must be true to whom she is as a person.” If I covered my tattoos, would I be fulfilling any of those requirements? No. I would be doing a disservice to myself and to those who have found me to be a role model.

Should I win Miss America because I have tattoos? Of course not. BUT, I shouldn’t be discredited for having them either. This is 2013. We are not in the dark-ages, we are not in the 50′s. We are the leading nation for innovation, creativity and progression. When I dress for work everyday, I act like a professional and I look like a professional. YOU do not know that I have tattoos unless I want you to.

If I don’t win the title of Miss America, I can only hope I have changed peoples perceptions of the type of women that choose to compete for it. God, Grant me the Courage to Change the Things I Can…

On a final note, I’d like to discuss my military service. It has been documented in writing that if I win Miss America, my obligations and responsibilities will be given to the crown. The military has been my number 1 supporter through all of this since they, too, believe in pursuing personal and professional goals. It’s not bad recruiting for them either ;)

If you haven’t already, PLEASE go vote for my video at www.missamerica.org/videocontest to solidify my spot in the top 15! That is the only way you’ll see me on the final night! Watch on Sunday, September 15th at 9 pm EST on ABC. I will also be featured in ABC’s 20/20 the hour leading up to the final event. So tune in!

God Bless

-Miss Kansas

Winning The Crown

2It was the last few minutes of the pageant, names were being called from the top 10, announcing 4th runner up…3rd runner up…I’m nearly on the verge of hyperventilating, in disbelief that my name hadn’t been called yet. Then it happened, the moment that is now a blur. “And the new Miss Kansas 2013 is……contestant number 12! Theresa Vail!!”
This is the moment that my life will have changed forever.

Many of you that have been following me and the news know everything there is to know about my surface. So for this post, I would really like to share my experiences and thoughts on the actual pageant week.

Before I met all the women that I competed against, I held many preconceived notions about the types of girls that do this sort of thing. I was told to watch my back, lock up my clothes and heels, and not to trust anyone. Boy, was I blown away by the truth.

The 24 women that I had the pleasure of competing with are the most selfless and sweet women that I have had the honor of getting to know. I went there with my guard up, and left with my vulnerabilities in the air. I would not have won without the support of my fellow contestants.
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For the same reason I love the military, I love the pageant system. It is a sisterhood, an unbreakable bond. Every assumption I held against these women were abolished the minute I got to know each and every single one of them. I am ashamed to say I held these judgements to begin with.

I spent a week with these women, and I have already made life-long friends. I connect with each of them in different ways, each having their own unique and special characteristics.

There was not one moment that I felt like I was being judged. It touched my heart when they came to me1 for advice, when my roommate and I had late-night heart-to-heart talks, when all the girls tried helping me on my less than desirable dance moves. They accepted me for my flaws and imperfections.

If like me, you hold/held judgements against pageant girls, I ask that you reserve those judgements until after you meet one. They will change your life forever.

To the Miss Kansas Class of 2013, I thank you and I love you.

Remember that you can go to my “SHOP” link and purchase a custom Miss Outdoor Girl t-shirt. ALL proceeds go towards supporting the Children’s Miracle Network Hospitals, the national platform for Miss America.

-Your Miss Outdoor Girl

Memorial Day and My Journey to Miss Kansas

What is Memorial Day? I know many of you believe it’s that weekend you get to spend at the lake drinking beer. Or the weekend you get to hang out with friends and family, partying it up. But those are merely the activities you partake in to celebrate what this Holiday is all about. Memorial Day is a day to remember our fallen soldiers; those that fought and died for our freedom and rights. We do not celebrate their death, but we rejoice in the legacy they left behind. While you’re out there on the lake, or celebrating at the bars, remember that you’re able to do those things because selfless men and women fought for you and your families.

I have served my state and my Country for 6 years. I may not be on the front lines of war but I wear my uniform with unmistakable pride. I yearn for the day that I get to deploy and serve my Country to the fullest potential. I may not like where the government is headed, I may not agree with the presidency. But I don’t serve either of those. I serve YOU and the United States of America. Have a safe and blessed Memorial Day. Thank a soldier for their service!

After 14 weeks

And now to tell you about my journey throughout the past 5 months. In such a short amount of time I have changed dramatically. Not just physically, but in my way of thinking. If there is one thing that competing has taught me, it’s that you need to be unapologetically yourself and not let others dictate how you feel. I will be the first to admit that I cared about what others thought of me. I let their words get to me and it brought me down. I started second-guessing myself, asking myself if this is really what I wanted to do. I hit a low point…and then I grew up.

After tirelessly worrying about what other girls were thinking about me, I realized that I am the best version of me possible. I am a compassionate person, a selfless person and an all-around kind-hearted girl. There will always be people who don’t like you because they don’t know you, and people who don’t know you because they don’t like you. And there is nothing you can do about it except put your big girl panties on and keep moving. I AM unapologetically ME.

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The biggest improvement is in my legs. I finally have shape and definition to them!

So as for the physical improvement, I have managed to gain 10 pounds of muscle in 5 months. WOW! I have always been naturally slender so to see muscle on my body was a huge achievement for me. Now, many will tell you that physical fitness is not important to winning a pageant. While this may hold some truth, I am not going to undermine the value of a fit body. How can you be a role-model if you don’t live a healthy lifestyle? If you’re binge-eating because you can or getting drunk on weekends?

In 2 weeks, win or lose, I will know that I put every ounce of discipline I had into it. Just from that, I will walk away knowing I am a winner. I still have a long way to go in terms of fitness and building muscle, but I am surely on the right path.

If you guys have any questions or comments, please don’t be afraid to ask! I will update you all in 2 weeks after the results of Miss Kansas! Have a beer for me!

 

-Your Miss Outdoor Girl

 

 

Easter Sunday and Online Dating…Oh My

Happy Easter to you all! I hope your Easter weekend was as blessed as mine. I was able to go home and spend time with my family and enjoy beautiful weather!

I recently brought my best friend back to the Catholic faith and had the pleasure of bringing them home for the weekend to experience Easter at the Vail house. Their passion for learning more about the faith has awakened something in me as well. I realized that I have become complacent in my Faith, not having the passion for it that I use to. I am so thankful to say that bringing them back to the church has inspired me to take my own Faith more seriously. I do want to become more Christ-like, a better Christian, a better person all-around. I find myself talking to God more, not always praying but just talking, like to a friend. It’s comforting and peaceful. I don’t always get a response, but I know He’s listening.

A combination of my best friend, the new Pope Francis and my experience at mass this Easter Sunday, has inspired me to be the best version of me possible. I have faults and I am a sinner, but every mortal being is. I pray that God has mercy on me and helps me through temptation and sin. Jesus is risen! Hallelujah, Hallelujah!

Dad and I shooting on Easter Sunday, both lefties!

Dad and I shooting on Easter Sunday, both lefties!

Now onto the online dating, oh boy. I had this bright idea of joining eharmony about a month ago. Yes, I am young and still in college. However, my maturity level is so far beyond that of the typical college guy that I thought online dating would provide some older, more mature gentleman. Feel free to laugh at me at any given time now.

After some weeks of talking/skyping with a guy that I was matched with, I decided I would fly out to his city…Chicago. Through our conversations I thought we were highly compatible. We agreed on every major and minor controversial/political issue, we were both Catholic and we just seemed to connect.

On the day I was suppose to fly out, God sent me a sign–my flight was canceled! Now, I do believe that everything happens for a reason, and I don’t believe in coincidence. So….why did I reschedule to fly out? That is a good question! Shame on me for not listening!

I won’t go into the details of the trip, but I will say that by the end of my stay there I was seriously reconsidering dating in general. I felt suffocated. If you knew the whole story you really would be laughing at me right now, as some of my close friends did.

Can you learn something from this? Yeah…when God speaks, you listen!

 

–Your Miss Outdoor Girl

 

My Life’s Purpose

This won’t be the longest post I’ve written, not by far, but I hope it will affect those of you who struggle with defining your life’s purpose.

For some reason I got to thinking about the interview I had when I won Miss Leavenworth County. After one judge had read my paperwork, she asked why I had wrote that I believe God had put me through my troubling childhood for a reason. I responded with, if I hadn’t gone through those experiences and been bullied, I likely would have ended up an ordinary girl, selfish in my ways and full of conceit.

The past few weeks I have been dwelling on a recurrent thought; Why am I so different from everyone else? Why don’t girls like me? Why can’t I fit in anywhere? I started answering these questions when I thought about my response to the aforementioned judge.

I believe these things are happening to me because God has something big in store. I am destined for something great. I have been hurt, bullied, traumatized and neglected for a reason. I have to believe this. I may not win Miss Kansas this summer, but I know I will go on to do something amazing. I will be a leader of this Nation. I will be a philanthropist. People will know my name to be synonymous with compassion and optimism.

When you’re struggling, when life seems like it’s not going to get any better, when you’re bullied and people are making fun of you, just believe that you’re meant for something bigger. You will go on to do great things in life. You will be successful in however you measure success, qualitative or quantitative. Just hang in there and keep your chin up.

I do believe in what most people call Karma. Though, I like to call it God. “Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.” I like to repeat this when I’m feeling hopeless. “The Lord will cause your enemies who rise up against you to be defeated before you.” The people who have hurt you will be punished in ways only known to God. Either way, people get what’s coming for them. An eye for an eye…

If any of you have watched the incredibly eye-opening movie, “The Help” you’ll be familiar with the saying, “You is smart, you is kind, you is important.” Remember that and don’t let anyone make you feel different.

-Your Miss Outdoor Girl

Body Image and Ideals

Attractive? More like unhealthy.

Attractive? More like unhealthy.

During one of my gym sessions a few days ago I stopped in front of the full length mirror and did something that I hate to admit; I looked at myself in disapproval. There I stood, nit-picking all of my so-called faults. “Trim up your legs, Theresa. Geez, I have man-sized traps. You could be a bit leaner, Theresa.” My subconscious was taking over, and there was nothing I could do about it.

Now, for those of you who know me or have seen me, you know that I take care of my body. I’m in the gym daily and I eat clean. So you’re asking yourself why I’m thinking these things about my body. Well, I suppose there are two reasons. The first being societal pressure. We’ve been raised in a society that, for so long, has constructed these women in the media to be the pinnacle of perfection. These slender, desirable bodies. Since I was just a small girl I believed I was suppose to look like that, and sadly that mentality is hard to shake after living it for years on end. The second reason, I may be slightly obsessed with the idea of perfection. In every aspect of my life I consider myself a perfectionist. My hair must always be done. I won’t dare be caught wearing sweatpants. I will always look presentable. My house must be clean….you get the gist. I’m like a robot! The funny thing is, no one else in my family is like this. So where did I get it? Again, society is to blame. As a child I envied those girls in magazines.

I have come a long way since then but like every girl I still struggle. I battled anorexia on and off from 5th-11th grade. I felt like I had to look a certain way. I had to look fragile and petite, like those girls in magazines. I know what it’s like to feel pressure, to hate yourself.

About a year ago, something in me changed though. Maybe it was my silent way of saying “screw you” to motivation1society, but out of the blue I no longer wanted to be just skinny. I wanted to be powerful. I wanted a sculpted body, my muscles saying “look at me, look at the dedication it took to get here.” Anyone can be slender, but it takes work, determination and diligence to be fit. And so my journey began. Since then I have been the most confident I’ve ever been in life. I stopped worrying about the numbers on the scale, but rather about how I FELT.

So here I am telling you about how confident I am with myself, yet I prefaced this post with my body concerns. The truth is, I’ll never stop trying to achieve more. There is always something that I will want to change. And you know what, that’s okay. I will never pollute or harm my body as a means of changing it so why not?

I will always preach doing what makes you happy, so long as it is safe. If you want to change, make a change. Just be healthy about it. Do you know why I work out and lift hard? Yes it boosts my confidence, but there is something deeper than that. A FIT body, not just a skinny body, says something about the person. It shows that they are determined. They are dedicated. They do not quit. This isn’t just for working out, these are the traits that show in every aspect of their life. Their career, their goals, their family, etc. I want to inspire and motivate people. I want to be a role-model for girls who need one. How can I accomplish these things if I can’t take my fitness and health seriously? THIS is why I workout. I want to be the best version of me possible, so as to influence others to make a positive change.

My phone's screen saver. It  motivates me on a daily basis.

My phone’s screen saver. It motivates me on a daily basis.

Pressure from society will always be there, I don’t care what you say. It can be completely subconscious or right in front of your face, but it’s there. Once we get more comfortable with ourselves is when that pressure lightens. So, find what makes you confident. If you have to make a change to do so, then do it! The only person stopping you is yourself. What makes you confident?

-Your Miss Outdoor Girl

Breaking The Negative Perception…

Speaking to the students

Speaking to the students

This past week I had the pleasure of speaking to over 350 JROTC cadets at Leavenworth High School. Here is how it began;

I walked in wearing my military uniform, nothing out of the ordinary for a group of students who see this on a daily basis. I asked them what opinions came to their mind when I stood before them in uniform, and as I expected they looked at me with expressions of confusion. They simply said I was a woman in uniform.

As an icebreaker, I then pulled out my crown and sash and my “glammed up” pageant headshot. Every reaction was the same; gasps, whispers, astonishment. I  asked the students if their opinion of me changed any after seeing that I’m not just a woman in uniform. I asked them if they ever imagined putting the two together, a beauty queen and a soldier. When they said no, I asked why. The responses I received are as follows;

“Soldiers don’t mind getting dirty. Beauty queens care if they break a nail.”

“Beauty queens are full of themselves. ”

“Beauty queens are stuck up.”

There were many more, but you get the gist of it. After they gave their feedback I picked out a few students and labeled them. I pointed at a guy and told him he was a jock. I pointed at a girl and called her a cheerleader. And lastly, I told another guy that he was a band geek. After doing so (and getting a few glares from these students), I asked how they felt. They all said the same thing; stereotyped and labeled. As if simultaneously, the lightbulbs went off in their heads and they understood the point I was soon to make.

I backtracked to tell the students my story, where I came from and how I got here. I was a ghost in high school. I had no friends, no life, no confidence. I spent lunch period in the library, alone with my love for books. The characters in these pages being the only people I could relate to.

I took a leap out of my comfort zone one day and joined my school’s rifle team. Quickly escalating

After the speech I went down to the rifle range for old times sake!

After the speech I went down to the rifle range for old times sake!

to the number one shot, I earned the nickname “Annie Oakley” and found where I belonged…in a man’s world. On that range is where I found myself and my confidence. I was never interested in the petty drama that followed most girls around in high school, so being around men on this range was relieving. No drama, just pure camaraderie and competition.

A year later, I joined the Army National Guard while still in high school. Getting shipped off to basic training was a fear come true….and I loved every minute of it. When one got in trouble, we all suffered for it. When one went down, we all went down. It was a band of brothers, unity and camaraderie at its finest. This is what I live for.

As I finished telling the students of my hard exterior, I softened it up a bit. How did a solider get into the pageant world? I said that God’s mission for me here on earth is to help people. To motivate, encourage, empower. The pageant world seemed best fit to catalyze my success in fulfilling God’s mission. It would allow me to speak to groups of people and share my platform.

Miss LVAs a final question, I asked them if their perception of a beauty queen was still the same….and they all said no. They said I broke the mold of what they assumed a beauty queen was like. My mission for this speech was a success. If I could just make ONE person think differently and stop stereotyping, I’ve done my part.

I left them with the lyrics from Michael Jackson’s “Man in the Mirror” song. “If you want to make the world a better place, you better look at yourself and make a change.”

Make a change in yourself, people! Stop stereotyping, stop assuming, stop labeling!

 

-Your Miss Outdoor Girl